What’s the Difference Between Self Care and Self Indulgence?

A recent article in Alive magazine got me thinking. What is self care? The medical definition refers to a patient’s ability to follow through with doctors’ orders. How will they be able to take the steps necessary to build health.

In modern marketing, self care has been used to peddle spa treatments, luxury shoes and exotic travel. Are these items, for example, necessary to health? They may be very pleasant and desirable but they don’t have any direct benefit to your organism.

This is where it is important to understand that self indulgence (what’s a little dark chocolate between friends?) is lovely but it is not self care. By defining self care as those luxuries, we leave out huge swaths of individuals who can’t afford them or who don’t have access to them (maybe they’re tied down with family responsibilities or travel is unsafe).

And I’m in the business of supporting self care. Yoga therapy is not something that is done to you, like massage. Yoga therapy is the active process of evaluating where we’re at now and deciding what simple techniques can be employed (ie self care) to bring more balance. Almost anyone, anywhere can practice yoga therapy. As a yoga therapist, I spend considerable effort to communicate the tools clearly and freely. In this, I hope to include as many as are interested in the self care rituals.

When you are evaluating your lifestyle and thinking about improving your mood, physical health or mental abilities, please consider your responsibility in making that happen. Ultimately, no one practitioner can “fix” you. It’s up to you to take responsibility for your own self care. It’s not a “luxury” to hit your yoga mat or take time to therapeutically relax. It’s not something that goes on the “to do” list only to be outmuscled by shopping or travel (something more fun). Yoga is self care … health care.

Please try some of the free video resources on this site. It takes as little as 10 minutes a day, and can be absolutely free, to practice true self care.

How to Cook in a Tiny Trailer

As many of you know, I enjoy escaping and embodying a “hippie” sort of lifestyle for several months a year. My refuge is a 17′ travel trailer that we have outfitted with all the comforts necessary. When you spend that much time on the road, you need to make a commitment to healthy lifestyle which means you’re not really “on vacation”. That means eating healthy, bringing my yoga mat along and maintaining a meditation practice.

In this video, I try (with my little iPhone) to give you a sense of the space inside the trailer and I demonstrate preparation of a lovely Thai style shrimp stir fry. It’s always fun to peak into someone else’s kitchen, I think, and this one is unusual… about 50 square feet or less. Let me know if you try the recipe and send me your tiny kitchen tips.

Save Money – and love Mother Nature – with Cleaning Vinegar

Our modern lives are permeated with advanced chemicals.  Compounds that would be unrecognizable just 100 years ago abound in everything from foods to fabrics to manufacturing processes.   Although each of these compounds has been tested for safety, I sometimes wonder about the cumulative exposure.  

In laboratory settings, research scientists expend due diligence to create a test environment where most things stay the same so they can study variability of the factors under study.  The real world isn’t like that.  The mercury in my dental fillings is probably safe on its own but what if my toxic exposure is increased by my personal care products, living next to a factory and drinking from the heavily industrialized great lakes?  

It makes sense to reduce your chemical exposure wherever possible.  Cleaning vinegar is a relatively recent discovery in our household but has quickly become popular as it eliminates so many other cleaning and household products…. all of which have complicated chemical backgrounds.

By contrast, vinegar is really just watered acetic acid which is produced by the fermentation of ethanol or sugars by acetic acid bacteria.  It has been around for millennia.  Cleaning vinegar is a stronger solution than that we use for cooking, usually 10% or more.  It costs about $4 for 2.5 litres at your local grocery or hardware store making it a very economical choice.

And what can you do with cleaning vinegar?  There are probably so many more uses but here are a couple occurring in our house regularly:

  1. Clean the bathroom.  Use full strength on a micro-fibre cloth to clear soap scum, disinfect and polish.  Rinse with clear water.  To sanitize, leave on the surface for 10 – 30 minutes before rinsing.
  2. Clean your floors.  Use ¼ cup vinegar to 1 gallon hot water and dissolve grease, stains and sticky gunk.  I don’t rinse but if you have a shiny finish, your floor might need one.
  3. Polish mirrors and glass.  Prepare a spray bottle with ½ cleaning vinegar and ½ water.  Use like Windex.
  4. Dissolve hard water calcification in the washing machine or coffee maker.  The vinegar is acidic and can be corrosive if used too frequently.  I just add about ¼ – ½ cup full strength to the machine (in the fresh water container of the coffee maker or the drum of the washer) and run the machine through a normal cycle.  Run two or more clear water cycles afterward to rinse thoroughly.
  5. Add as a laundry rinse to brighten.  Dullness in clothing can be due to soap residue.  Adding ¼ vinegar through the fabric softener dispenser can dissolve that scum and brighten fabrics.  Test any precious pieces first in a discreet area because vinegar can fade.
  6. Kill weeds!  Use full strength in a spray bottle directly on weeds.  It will kill all plant life so take care when using in the lawn.  Use a very directed spray, right into the base of the plant.  It’s not as long lasting as herbicides and deep rooted plants like dandelions can recover, but it’s much safer for pets and kids.

Unfortunately, it is has not proven effective on Coronovirus so other disinfectants (like 70% rubbing alcohol) can be sparingly used on high touch surfaces.

Save Money and the Environment with Safer Personal Care Products

               

Time to get ready!  Step into the shower and look at the variety of products awaiting your ritual.  Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, deodorant soap, shaving lotion and many other products have become a supposed necessity to modern hygiene.  But are they?  Was it all those ads during the soap operas that convinced us that our natural body processes were horribly smelly and disgusting requiring immediate intervention with chemicals?

                Let’s step back and re-evaluate.   Why does shampoo have to lather?  Why do we need to deodorize our belly skin?  Why do we need a separate cleansing agent for our scalp?  Isn’t it skin too?

                Just as in cleaning our homes, cleaning our bodies has become a toxic soup of artificial, and probably unnecessary, chemicals that could be seriously harming our bodies and our environment.  The David Suzuki Foundation identifies the worst offenders (https://davidsuzuki.org/queen-of-green/dirty-dozen-cosmetic-chemicals-avoid/).  It might be interesting to go on a treasure hunt in your bathroom to see what you discover.

                This issue came into my awareness during a conversation with a friend years ago regarding menopause.  The poor thing was in the thick of hot flashes and other indignities when her doctor offered relief in the form of a skin cream.  It worked!  And she was having a tough time.  So I got to thinking… if a skin cream could affect her hormones enough to fix those serious issues, what am I putting on my skin that is affecting my hormones indiscriminately?  Hormone disruption with environmental toxins is a serious concern for me as it has been linked such diverse problems as breast cancer and obesity (*1).

Shampoo Alternatives

  1. Mix one part baking soda and one part apple cider vinegar.  Shake well and apply about 1 or 2 teaspoons to hair once wet.  Work into scalp.  Rinse well.

2. Use a shampoo bar 

 instead of a bottle.  It’s great for travelling as there are no liquids to pack in your carry on.  It can also be used on the body.  There are several options online.  Check the ingredients to be sure you understand each one and it is a natural substance.  The ingredient list should be under ten items. 

3. A special nod to dandruff shampoo users.  The harsher chemicals in traditional shampoos strips oils excessively from the skin (scalp) causing dry patches and opportunities for irritation.  Switching to softer cleansers creates healthier skin less likely to break out.  As a prescription for break out times, try rubbing in coconut oil Image result for coconut oilto scalp and leaving it for about 10 or 15 minutes.  Wash as usual.  The coconut oil is nourishing, anti-fungal and cooling.

Conditioner Alternatives

Unless you have very long, fine hair that tangles a lot, chances are you can skip purchased conditioner.  Conditioner was never intended to work at the root but nearer to the ends of hair.  Try applying a little argan or coconut oil to the ends (be extremely sparing) and then rinsing out excess under warm water in shower.  The myriad of products we apply to smooth, straighten, plump or control hair is dizzying.  I bet your family and friends would still love you if you let your hair go a little more natural.

Deodorizing Soap Alternatives

  1. You’re honestly not that smelly everywhere.  There are a couple key areas where things can get a little funky.  You know where they are.  All other exposed skin is fine for water only unless you have ground in dirt or axle grease to clean.  Consider using the hair cleanser on the smellier bits (they usually have some association with hair follicles as well so that makes sense, doesn’t it?).
  2. For the dirtier places, like after changing your oil or planting the garden, try a castile based soap (like Bronner’s).  It is oil based and the oil helps dissolve the grease on your body that might be holding the dirt. 

Moisturizer Alternatives

  1. Raid the kitchen for olive oil.  Slather on oil before shower then let the warm water rinse the excess.  Pat dry gently with a towel after and your skin should be silky smooth.
  2. Make your own body butter.

In a glass 2 cup measure, add ¼ cup coconut oil, ¼ cup olive oil, ¼ cup cocoa or shea butter and a few drops of essential oil for fragrance.  Melt slowly in the microwave, stirring frequently until well blended.  Pour into a clean storage container.  The liquid will harden to the texture of butter fresh from the fridge.  To apply, warm a little in your hand until liquid again.   

                Your pocketbook will thank you and the fish will thank you.  And you will still be beautiful as a more natural you.

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(*1) https://www.niehs.nih.gov/health/topics/agents/endocrine/index.cfm

Make Tofu Bacon

It’s a Sunday tradition around our house to go out for breakfast. During lockdown, it’ s one of those treats that I am really starting to miss. A couple weeks ago, I worked on a recipe for a tofu based sausage and this week I figured out bacon! For my vegetarian and vegan friends, finding that salty, spicy, oily and slightly sweet flavour punch is a big win!

Here we use extra firm tofu sliced into thin, uniform pieces. The thinner, the crispier the final product. Thicker slices turn out more like peameal (Canadian) style bacon. Use these yummy bites alongside pancakes or french toast, in a BLT or as a topping for salad. Pure, complete protein and much healthier than the real thing!

You can find smoked spices at Bulk Barn here in Canada or shop online. Smoked salt and paprika also make a good addition to potato salad, barbecue sauce, chilis and mayo.

Vegetarian Breakfast Sausage Experiment

During the quarantine, we need to find new ways to feel complete. I really wanted breakfast sausage! But our normal Sunday morning “out for breakfast” is no longer an option. Years ago, at Kripalu, I had some really yummy tofu based ones but couldn’t find a recipe online at this time. So it was time to get creative!

For more recipes like this, try peanut citrus stir fry or this satisfying vegan casserole with a quinoa crust.

A Secret Exercise Program to Relieve Joint Pain

                “June” (name has been changed to protect her privacy) has always been active.  She skied, skated, cycled and played racquet sports until her 70th birthday.  A right knee injury in her 30’s occasionally flared up but it was only since that birthday that walking became troublesome.  Eventually there was talk of a hip replacement due to the chronic pain that kept her up nights.

                By the time June came to yoga therapy, she had tried most other pain remedies and was understandably frustrated.  Most people who come into therapy have tried many things and are fed up.

                The first order of business, after getting to know each other, was to give June something hopeful on which to focus.  She pictured herself chair bound and her life closing in on her.  The exercises that she had received from her chiropractor and/or physiotherapist weren’t holding her attention – so they weren’t getting done.  June needed something easy on the joints but interesting enough to motivate her to practice every day.  She needed a routine that would help her deal with all the side effects of that arthritic hip.

                Chronic joint pain is about more than a knee or hip.  As you can imagine in June’s case, her worries and frustrations about her narrowing activity opportunities were causing as much pain as the actual arthritis.  Having pain causes us to adjust our socializing so we can become isolated and at risk for depression.  Having pain and getting yet another round of tests makes us feel like we are at the mercy of others, holding no power ourselves to heal.  Having pain can create a feeling of hopelessness that causes other areas of self-care to fall away.  It’s very difficult to focus on a healthy diet if it hurts too much to stand to cook or grocery shop, for example.

                Client after client, time and time again, I find that the Joint Freeing Series is just the ticket.  This simple series of uni-joint movements done in a specific order helps in so many ways.

  1. The movements distribute lubrication in the joint, helping to reduce inflammatory compounds and to bring healing fluids to the tissues.
  2. The movements stretch tight places and strengthen weaker places gently.
  3. The movements remind the brain how to fire muscles in an efficient and safe way.
  4. The breath pattern is soothing to the nervous system and can alleviate our impression of pain.
  5. The practice is ordered in such a way as to engage the brain, like a meditation, which helps to wire new ways of thinking less focused on the pain.

The Joint Freeing Series of yoga movements was helpful for June and can be utilized by anyone who is breathing.  I use it before my yoga poses and athletes can use it before their workouts.  Tired office workers can refresh before dinner with this series and kids can use it to build coordination and learn healthy body awareness.

The videos available here show four different versions.  The first is using a chair, which means June didn’t have to get up and down from the floor.  If the floor is no problem for you, try the second version or the standing series.  There is even a video to show how to do the series completely lying down, even in bed.  All sequences will bring energy to every cell of your body, helping you feel vibrant and mobile.

To learn how to teach others to do the Joint Freeing Series, and to understand the science and research behind it, please consider our Professional Training Course in July 2020. Yoga Teachers, other movement professionals such as kinesiologists, physiotherapists, nurses and fitness instructors will all find this additional tool kit helpful in their work.

Restorative Yoga Rocked My World

yoga therapy is about finding balance including adequate therapeutic rest

Please note:  if you have no stress, this article will not be of interest.

But if you live in modern society, your system experiences stress just due to the level of stimulation (noise, visual messaging, abundance of choice, etc.).  Imagine life 100, or 1000, years ago.  It gets dark in early evening.  It’s perhaps cold outside.  Maybe you huddle by the fire or work by candlelight for a bit, but then you cocoon for long stretches.  There’s no television, cell phone or central heat.  You can go days or even weeks seeing just the same few faces.  You have very little concept of what life is like on the other side of the world so you don’t worry about the wars or starvation there.  Your nervous system today is wired for that level of stimulation.  It’s very new in human development that we have access to 24 hour news, shopping, visiting, gambling, etc.  We no longer have a long, open spaces in our lifestyle to nap, dream, work at quiet, repetitive tasks and generally be bored to tears.

Even if you have a perfect marriage, no money concerns, a benevolent boss and consistent access to the best parking spots, your system is chronically and cumulatively deprived of restoration time.  What we commonly believe to be symptoms of aging are actually the result of this deficit

Most of us wouldn’t sign up to go back in time.  There are ways, however, to adjust to the rest needs of your system without such drastic steps.  One way is Restorative Yoga.

You might consider yoga stretching or exercise, which it can be.  Restorative Yoga is a different approach that also improves performance, concentration and alleviates pain….  without stretching or straining. 

That’s why Restorative Yoga rocked my world. 

Restorative Yoga means taking time to arrange your body over pillows, blankets, chairs, etc. in such ways that all curves are supported gently.  Properly propped, you feel no actual “stretch” sensation.  The position should be neutral and as comfortable as possible. 

Restorative Yoga helps us discover where we are holding tension.
The actual effort involved in restorative yoga is the willingness to look at how and where we are holding tension, and to relax our body on the ground, allowing the breath to come in more, so the tension that we find can be softened or less gripping. 

Restorative Yoga creates the conditions for the relaxation response to kick in. 
The grounding; complete, full breathing; and quietness of Restorative Yoga help us elicit the relaxation response, a neurological response that tells us we are safe, pulls us out of “flight or fight” mode and initiates the body’s self-healing process. 

Restorative Yoga helps us face what we are avoiding about ourselves.
Our habit of running around, conquering our to-do lists, and fueling ourselves with coffee and ambition can often be a way we avoid deep discomforts and unwelcome feelings in the body and mind. Restorative yoga asks us to stop engaging in all the doing and face what we really need to look at about ourselves. To learn about, befriend, and care for the whole of ourselves in a way we are not used to. This is an essential step for health and healing, for true renewal. 

Previously, I only took Restorative Yoga seriously when I was injured or had already put in a good workout.  Now it’s become the first priority in my self care protocol. 

Try Legs up the Chair pose after work. Try the position pictured above when you’re fighting off a cold. In our “Learn to Rest” section of the resources page, there are many different options.

Do Less to Achieve More

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How to change this…….
into this.

Energy is a resource for which we control the budget. Investing wisely to achieve maximum return is important here as it is with finance.  Learn the science behind therapeutic rest in order to boost your focus, strength and resiliency.

As the holidays creep closer, the pressure to jam more into each day increases.  Although it may seem counter-intuitive, doing less will actually help you get more done.  Here’s how.

A tremendous amount of mental and physical activity takes place in the background of our awareness.  Experts suggest up to 90% of our reactions, thoughts and behaviours are initiated from the subconscious mind.  All of these electrical impulses, or thoughts, require energy.  Many of these automatic decisions may not be in congruence with your current priorities, but you keep doing them anyway as reflexes and habits.  For example, you may have a willful commitment to eating healthier, but late night cravings for ice cream when you can’t sleep derail you regularly.  Sometimes, you can’t even recall eating it at all!  This conflict can cause stress on the system about which we are oblivious.

Most of us think of stress as really tragic events or other big ticket changes in your life.  Most people, because they function quite capably in their life’s work, don’t even feel stressed.  By the time we report stress to our doctor or other caregiver, the symptoms of imbalance have deeply impacted our physical and emotional health.

Stress is an inherent part of being human.  All of us experience stress or we couldn’t get out of bed each day.  Stress is a normal and healthy set of physiological markers (such as increased heart rate, tension in large muscle groups, increased adrenalin, etc.) that allow us to get things done and feel alert.   At the opposite end of the spectrum is the relaxation response.  Again, this is a specific set of physiological markers that create an environment in the body for repair, digestion and reorganizing.  Ideally, the human animal is equally balanced in the course of a day between activity and rest.  The flow between the two states of activity and rest is a continuum and we constantly float along that spectrum.  Even in the course of one breath, there is a little movement between activity and rest.

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 As stress has become more and more associated with negative health outcomes, intensive research has shown that stress response happens in modern life far more often than we realize.  Stress, or activity, is generated in the sympathetic nervous system any time we feel the mildest of a survival threat.  An update on your computer platform; searching for a parking spot; worrying that that last joke was well received – these common occurrences generate the biochemical changes in your body that take your away from the reparative and restorative rest we so desperately need.  Add in a few bigger ticket stressors such as financial or family concerns and our system is drawn chronically into sympathetic nervous system activation too often and for too long. 

Choosing to invest your energy in the chronic activation of the sympathetic nervous system prematurely wears you out.  It contributes to sleep disturbances, skin rashes, arthritic pain, sharp tempers and a lack of creativity to name a few symptoms.  Remember – modern life inherently pushes you to this imbalance.  Perhaps most compelling is that the holidays are potentially a time for connection, family and celebrating what is wonderful in our lives.  When we are depleted, the fatigue prevents us from being truly present and enjoying the season as much as we could.

What we think of as “relaxing”, really isn’t.

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  1. Socializing – while very enjoyable, the noise, heavy food, alcohol, pressure to be witty, all add up to a “survival threat”.  It stimulates your sympathetic nervous system.
  2. Exercise – movement is extremely important but exercise alone, especially movement that is in any way associated measuring, evaluating or competing, activates the sympathetic nervous system.  As the adrenalin and other hormones of the stress response are produced to answer the call of exercise, they are burned off so we feel more balanced when we finished.  There has been no rest though.
  3. Media – watching television or catching up on podcasts allows physical stillness but is in no way restful for the nervous system.  Studies show that the powerful emotional centers of the brain react to the images and ideas on media as if they were happening directly to us.  Our rational brains can distinguish the difference, but that part of your brain is not consciously directing these reflexive responses.

Relaxation is an activation of the parasympathetic nervous system.  There are separate nerves that enervate your organs and tissues for this branch of the autonomic nervous system.  Remember, we flow along the continuum throughout the day and can feel relatively ‘relaxed’ when we are not actually in the relaxation response.  To create the flow of neurotransmitters and biochemical markers that will truly help us heal, we need to take rest seriously.

Modern society is the most complex ever recorded so your lives probably reflect that.  Besides the obvious advice to edit activities and eat healthy, here are a couple interventions that can help you “power rest”.   Introducing regular and repeated therapeutic relaxation into your daily routine recalibrates your brain giving you greater focus and strength. 

An instructional video for the following practices can be found here.

Strategy #1:  Alternate Nostril Breathing

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This ancient breathing technique alternately stimulates the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems to help you create a better flow along the continuum.  Set a timer for 5 minutes.  Sit in a chair with an upright and alert posture.  (Instructional video here.) Feel free to play some uplifting and relaxing music in the background (try https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=1Z8lIU9fKjk&list=PLNxTjx73TgkdaxeYhQQvIEYbSm-RqLeOm).   Using your right hand, place the thumb over the right nostril.  Place the ring finger over the left nostril.  The index and middle finger can curl down into the palm, or lightly rest them between the eye brows.  Inhale only through the left side then adjust fingers so exhale is only through the right.  Stay on the right side to inhale, then adjust fingers to exhale on the left.  This is one round.  Relax shoulders, align head over the rest of the spine.  Repeat until the time goes off.  This breathing pattern may help you feel more balanced and prepare for deeper stages of relaxation.

Strategy #2:  Legs Up the Chair Pose

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This restorative yoga posture inverts the play of gravity on the body, inducing a physical sense of relaxation.  It alleviates lower leg swelling, sore feet, aching hips, backs and knees (all symptoms of marathon holiday parties and shopping).  To do, (instructional video here) utilize a kitchen or living room chair or couch.  Align the legs so that the calves are supported by the seat with the edge of the seat in the crooks of your knees.  Place a pillow or folded blanket under your sacrum to elevate your hips slightly.  A pillow might feel nice under your neck.  Close your eyes and breathe slowly and deeply.  As little as five minutes can bring new energy but continuing for up to 20 is recommended.  Adding an eye pillow or cool cloth will reduce lines and swelling around eyes.

Amazing Fall Casserole – Recipe

Yoga therapy helps us celebrate every day activities.

With the fall harvest underway, markets are abundant with eggplants and tomatoes. I was searching for a hearty vegetarian, make ahead meal that was different. This Barley Crust Eggplant Lasagna is high fibre and packed with seasonal flavor.

Pot barley (not pearl – those grains have been polished to remove much of the healthy fibre and vitamins) is a wonderful grain to have in your pantry. When cooked, it is toothsome, chewy and almost meat like. In this recipe, we used cooked barley as a base for a rich ricotta layer topped with fall vegetables and, of course, more cheese!

Make ahead. This will keep in the fridge for 3 – 4 days before baking. And leftovers can be enjoyed for the rest of the week. This recipe makes an 8″ square baking pan, and serves at least four people. To make it in a traditional lasagna pan, double ingredients.

Recipe:

For the crust: Bring 3 cups vegetable stock to a boil. Add one cup pot barley. Reduce heat and simmer, lid on, for about 20 – 30 minutes. Drain well. Combine cooled barley with 1/2 tsp salt, 1/4 tsp pepper, 1 egg and chopped fresh parsley and chives (other herbs are fine – about 1/4 cup in total). Press mixture into bottom of well oiled 8″ square bake pan.

For eggplant layer: Slice eggplant into 1/4″ thick rings and place on sheet pan. I use parchment paper to cover the pan first so the pan stays clean. Salt generously. Place in 400 degree oven for about 20 minutes. When eggplant is browned and tender, place slices over crust.

For the ricotta layer: In a mixing bowl, combine one package ricotta with one egg, 1/4 tsp salt, 1/4 tsp pepper and 1/4 tsp nutmeg. Spread evenly over eggplant layer.

For the tomato layer: Slice heirloom tomatoes in 1/4″ thick pieces. Place over the ricotta layer.

For the topping: Top casserole with 1 cup grated mozzarella cheese and 1/2 cup grated parmesan cheese.

To bake: Place in pre-heated 350 degree oven for about 45 minutes. Keep casserole covered. When vegetables are tender and hot throughout, remove foil or cover and broil to brown cheese.

This is the amazing comforting fall meal that awaits you after the casserole has a few minutes to rest. Check out other unusual recipes such as Carrot Top Pesto and freezing your own Roasted Red Peppers.